People often ask me “how I do it.” How do I manage with toddler twins and a preschooler (or, at first, infant twins and a toddler)? (Go ahead and laugh, moms with triplets — or those of you with 4 + kids. It’s OK. You have earned it.)
I don’t know.
At home, it’s not too hard. We follow the Routine, and it serves us pretty well. Some days Raisin doesn’t brush her teeth until after lunch, and some days the grit underfoot in the kitchen feels like a million daggers in my soul, but it all gets taken care of eventually.
But I don’t want to be the mom who says “no” all the time, so we venture to the library, or bowling with Raisin’s friends from school, or out to play in the snow. At the library, Orange tries to rip pages out of every book. At the bowling alley, Apple wanted a closer look at the pins, and I had to chase him down the lane. It took me 1/2 hour to get everyone dressed for outside today. Apple and Orange both had their boots off within 2 minutes of being out (a good chunk of the 1/2 hour was me putting one twin back in their boots while the other struggled out of theirs). I made them stay out another 15 minutes anyway.
They deserve to have all these childhood experiences, and the fact that it’s hard for me is no excuse for them to miss out. So, I keep trying. But I don’t think I’ll ever feel like I’m “managing.”
The real trick is being OK with that.